A Message from The Reverend Mary Slenski

Glory in the Gray The Rev. Mary Slenski

There’s a good deal of conversation in the public square about women’s reproductive rights, again, with the legislation recently passed in Texas. Two years ago, when the conversation was also active in the public square, I preached a sermon where I summarized the official resolution of the Episcopal Church on childbearing and abortion. I offered the sermon to the Wardens for sharing with the congregation as a formation resource. With their review and consent, it’s available here. The full statement is available here: https://www.episcopalarchives.org/cgi-bin/acts/acts_search.pl?user_query=1994-a054. Feel free to send comments or questions to me here (rev.maryslenski@gmail.com). I’ll be with you this weekend and am willing to stay after as well.

This sermon was first preached at Grace Episcopal Church in Oak Park, Illinois on May 19, 2019. It has been lightly edited for wider distribution.

Our gospel reading (John 13:31-35) used some form of the word glory six times in two verses. Must be trying to make a point. To glorify is to make visible the presence of God. Sometimes, glory just presents itself right where you’d expect it.

A mother sits down with her little daughter after breakfast one morning. The eldest is off to school. There won’t be too many more mornings for the two of them to read stories after breakfast. This mom is great with a new child. They’re sitting in line with the kitchen window. As the morning sun rises and shines through the window, the little girl’s head blocks the sun. Mom looks over to see the sun’s rays framing the little girl’s face gloriously, like the halos around the heads of angels in our stained glass windows. And this mother treasured this moment and pondered it in her heart. To God be the glory! All three children were conceived in love, welcomed into a safe home with two parents who could provide for them. While this moment is to be enjoyed and remembered, as in many families, there are areas in the past, and there will be in the future, where the glory is to be found in the gray areas, where decisions about pregnancy and childbirth aren’t quite so easy.

There’s a lot of conversation going on in the public square regarding women’s access to reproductive health care, pregnancy and childbirth. People have been surprised to know that the Episcopal Church has had a Statement on Childbirth and Abortion since 1988. That statement was reaffirmed at the 71st General Convention in 1994 and still stands. A couple of things first:

1. I am presenting the official statement of the Episcopal Church, and not my personal opinion. I have a responsibility to do so. (https://www.episcopalarchives.org/cgi-bin/acts/acts_search.pl?user_query=1994-a054) In accord with the way we do business, it was brought forth in hearings and approved by both the House of Deputies i.e. lay members and clergy from all dioceses, and by the House of Bishops. Lots of people; lots of prayerful deliberation.
2. Faithful Episcopalians may hold a diversity of opinions.
3. The statement is a resource for advocacy, teaching and discussion.
4. I am only asking for listening with love and respect. This is an emotionally charged subject.

It’s only a page long and I am going to summarize. OK? The General Convention of the Episcopal Church reaffirms:

• All human life is sacred from its inception until death.
• Birth of a child is a joyous occasion in the family and in the Christian community.
• We affirm responsible family planning.
• We regard all abortion as having a tragic dimension, calling for concern and compassion of all the Christian community.
• While in this country women legally have the right to a medically safe abortion, this right is for extreme situations.
• When an abortion is being considered, members of this church are urged to seek the dictates of their conscience in prayer, to seek advice and counsel of members of the Christian community, and where appropriate, the sacramental life of this Church.
• When members of this Church are consulted regarding a problem pregnancy, they are to explore, with grave seriousness, with the person, alternatives and other positive courses of action.
• We believe that legislation concerning abortions will not address the root of the problem.
• We are convicted that any proposed legislation at any level of government must take special care to respect the individual conscience. We honor the responsibility of individuals to reach informed decisions.
• And further, this convention expresses its unequivocal opposition, to any action, on the part of governments at any level, that abridges a woman’s right to reach an informed decision about the termination of a pregnancy. It also opposes any action that would limit the access of a woman to a safe means of acting on her decision.

We, the Episcopal Church have been accused of being wishy-washy on issues that others see as cut and dry. We’ve taken a difficult road shaped by scripture, tradition and reason. Our scripture is not a biology text. It doesn’t answer scientific questions. It does direct us to look to creation to see the glory of God. It does show us how faithful people have seen God revealed in their story. We set our hearts upon–that’s what the ‘we believe’ in our creeds mean—we set our hearts in God, creator of all things, seen and unseen. We set our hearts on the witness of Jesus Christ to the power of Love. We set our hearts on a Holy Spirit to move, to heal and to inspire beyond the limits of the institutional Church. And, still, despite all the goodness, reason dictates that we acknowledge sin, violence and injustice that infect our lives. We promise as individuals and as a community to uphold the dignity of every human being. We strive to seek justice, love mercy, and walk humbly with our God. And in doing those things, we may find the glory of God revealed, often in places we’d never expect, in the gray areas between absolutes.

In this statement, we recognize the many dimensions of the situation. We affirm human life as sacred and a woman’s right to choose. We uphold access to safe health care. We offer to accompany a woman through her decision wrapping her with respect and dignity, as she allows. We recognize that, despite all of these good things, there are situations where the most life-affirming decision may be to terminate a pregnancy. Even then, nothing shall separate her nor the child from the love of God in Christ Jesus.

Life is filled with gray areas between absolutes. There’s a gray area where the definition of life is more than biology. There’s a gray area where the complexity of the human condition brings deeply held values into conflict with each other. There’s a gray area where there are many goods to be weighed against one another. There’s a gray area where duty is hard to discern. These gray areas are exactly where we are called to humble, loving service to life, in all its dimensions, as a community gathered around a table, our feet on the ground.

This is where our gospel reading comes in.

We began with, “At the last supper, when Judas had gone out, Jesus said, ‘Now the Son of Man has been glorified, and God has been glorified in him.’” (John 13:31) Has been. Interesting. Has been is something that has taken place in the past. The Son of Man has already been glorified, and God has already been glorified. So, where is or are these ‘has beens’ where God has been glorified? Let’s look back to the last supper which is just before our reading.

This is the gospel of John. In his gospel, the last supper is the meal we remember on Maundy Thursday of Holy Week. After the meal, Jesus wrapped the towel around his waist, took a basin, and went around the table washing his disciple’s feet. Then, he gave them the mandate that they should wash one another’s feet. I imagine the water in the basic becoming gray with the remnants of the dusty road.

Washing feet is the symbol of the humble servant ministry of healing and meeting people where their feet hit ground–the symbolic act of loving one another. Humble service took the place of absolutes of in and out, clean and unclean, servant and master. In this act, in the gray area between what has been and what will be, the presence of God is revealed. And so, we may stand in line with those first disciples, feet dusty with the wear and tear of our day, wash each other’s feet, and find God, in those moments of absolute clarity, and in the gray areas, where the only absolute is this: if God can be present in death, God can be present in the gray areas of our lives. To God be the glory!

Note: As they arrive, ushers will be handing parents with children a note with the following:

Dear Parents,

My sermon today will be on a topic for mature audiences. I’ll be sharing the Episcopal Church’s policy statement on childbirth and abortion. It is hard to avoid some vocabulary that might raise questions from a child. You are welcome to take children upstairs during the sermon.

Thank you,



As we gather in person for Sunday worship, please remember we still need to be protective of each other as the Delta Variant of the Covid virus continues to spread. The Delta Variant is many times more contagious and believed to be more dangerous, particularly to those who are not yet vaccinated, than earlier strains. Even those who are vaccinated may become infected and transmit the virus. It is projected that this outbreak will peak in late August, early September. To protect our communities until this subsides, the Diocese has suggested that you wear masks indoors regardless of vaccination status and take a congregational singing hiatus. During this time only one cantor and one singer will be allowed, and no choir for awhile. We also ask that you maintain social distancing. Please only sit in pews with prayer books and hymnals. Hopefully, one day soon, we will all be able to lift our voices in song. Many thanks to everyone for your patience.

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Prayers and Reflections for this week

We have heard that the daily reflections and scripture readings provided during Lent were appreciated. Those of us writing them have also found it an enriching experience and have decided to continue. The meditations are written by persons from Saint Andrew’s, Gobin UMC and Beach Grove UMC. The daily meditations will be in the newsletter each week and go from Wednesday to Tuesday, except for Sunday. Whether you enjoy these every day, or as the Spirit moves you, may this resource continue to bring you spiritual food for the journey. Blessings!

The Seventeenth Sunday after Pentecost

Sunday In-Person Worship, September 19 led by The Reverend Mary Slenski

You can connect to the service via Zoom. Click on this link to connect. If you have not used Zoom before, you will be prompted to download Zoom, go ahead and do that. When you enter the meeting you should be able to see and hear others and others can see and hear you. If you come in a little late, please listen for a moment before speaking. In order to see everyone, go to Gallery view (upper right on PCs and upper left for Macintosh). When we get started everyone except the speaker will be muted. If you are reading or playing music, please be sure to unmute yourself.

If you are connecting via telephone dial 301-715-8592 and when prompted enter the Meeting ID: 847 8600 1703 and press #, then enter the password: pray and press # again.

Click here for the service booklet for September 19

Baby Shower for Kate and John Berry

Please join us for a baby shower for the Berry’s hosted by Christiane Wisehart and Dana Glessner here at the St. Andrew’s Memorial Garden on Sunday, October 3rd at 3:00 p.m. Please RSVP to Christiane at (215) 850-4842 or Dana at (765) 655-3450. A book of words of wisdom is being compiled for the parents-to-be. Please contribute your words on what the essence of parenting is to you and what really matters most in parenting. These can be texted to Dana or e-mailed to her at theglessners@hotmail.com. If you would like to wait and design a page at the shower, you are welcome to do that instead. If you’d like to contribute to the group gift of a Mockingbird baby stroller, you can VENMO @ Dana-Glessner, drop your contribution into the Glessner mailbox at 639 E. Seminary St., or bring to the shower and your name will be included on the gift tag. Thank you!

Non Food Pantry Latest

Saturday, September 25

• Noon to 3:00 p.m.
There will be a drive through distribution coordinated by Kate Berry and sack lunches will be given out. We are very grateful to Martha Rainbolt, Carl Huffman, Karen Hirt Mannon, and Christiane Wisehart who have worked very hard to obtain supplies for the Non-Food Pantry. Kroger is not able to acquire enough products for us so the items are being purchased from a variety of sources. This is much more expensive. Donations to help offset this extra cost will be gratefully accepted!

Top 3 Needed Items
  • Menstrual Pads
  • Tampons

  • Toilet Paper

Your prayers are asked for:

Russell Ball, husband of Jennifer Ball
Beth Benedix, friend to many of us at Saint Andrew’s
The family of Margaret Anne Ervin, sister of Bob Haymaker
The family of Eric Fladeland, friend of Tim and Caroline Good
The family of Tom Gibson, brother of Gwen Morris
Mary Ellen Gurnon, aunt of Daniel and Stephanie Gurnon
Rena Hale, sister of Thea Warren-Simpson
Keith Keysor, friend of Andy Cullison
Lisa Breese Kincaid, daughter of Bob and Mimi Breese
The family of Dr. John Lovett, father of Nancy Lovett
Grayson Lyons, great nephew of Peggy Angleton
Art Mannon, brother of Jim Mannon
Stanley Morris
Mary Mountz
Marilyn Mourouzis
The family of Nafhat Nasr, friend of Dave and Sue Murray
Helen Noble, mother of Terry Noble
The family of Bruce Ploshay, friend of Page and Narda Cotton and former member of Saint Andrew’s
Gordon Redden
Jordan Sanders, sister of Jim Ensley
The family of Jeff Sheffler, son-in-law of Page and Narda Cotton
Gloria Smith
Skip Sutton
Sydnor Thompson, brother of Harriet Moore
The family of Florence Virtanen, mother of Sue Murray

Diocesan Cycle of Prayer:
Saint Matthew’s Church, Indianapolis: The Rev. Frank Impicciche, The Rev. Cathy Scott.

Our companion dioceses: The Anglican Episcopal Church of Brazil: The Most Rev. Mauricio Jose Araujo De Andrade, Primate of Brazil and Bishop of Brasilia. The people and Diocese of Haiti and Saint Andre’s in Mithon.

Anglican Cycle of Prayer: The Church of the Province of Uganda.

Birthdays: Page Cotton, September 21 . Seth Heithaus, September 22 . Bob Haymaker, September 23 . Debbie Beck, September 24 . Rebecca Moore, September 25

Anniversaries: Kathy and Steve Jones, September 25


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